How can you not laugh? The state with “irreconcilable differences” as a legal reason for divorce hosts a demonstration to ban divorce. How two faced. California enacted America’s first no-fault divorce law, and in order to be the first again, a ballot is in the works to make divorce illegal. Protecting marriage? More like a covert action by the pharmaceutical companies to increase sales of Valium, Xanax etc ….
As if the possible illegality of divorce isn’t enough, some proponents support making the divorce ban retroactive. As in “Congratulations! You are married to him/her ... again”.
It's completely and totally unimaginable for the me of today to re-join the marriage of my past. It couldn’t work. Today’s me would not even be attracted to that old life.
But let’s play with this. Suppose there was some perverse reversal of the TV show "FlashForward" where instead of everyone getting a glimpse of their own future they got to look at themselves in the past. Where would you be in a FlashBackward vs. where you are today?
What would most likely be in my FlashBackward?
- Still running and gasping for air on the Keeping up with the Jones’ treadmill
- Stuffing my needs, wants and dreams into a tiny locked box in order to support his
- At least 10 additional pounds
- Having panic filled mornings plagued with “how are the bills for his must have watch, car, wine etc … going to get paid?”
- Daily “Are you there vodka?” shout outs
It’s interesting that writing this is occurring around Thanksgiving. Thank you universe for my FlashBackward not happening. How bizarre that I am grateful for my divorce? Great results came out of my most difficult circumstances: freedom, discipline, clarity, friendship, love, calm, power, peace, understanding, happiness, respect …. The list of positives could go on and on.
Your divorce may seem like a dark and never ending tunnel, but there is a light at the end, and it's bright!
So tell us … How would your FlashBackward look in contrast to today?
djv
djv@divorcesalon.com
